Tibetan Wedding Traditions

Weddings or other events Tibetan people will draw a guide path or “万” design in front of the house also hang the Sutra streamer on the roof.

In Tibetan areas, free love is commonly in many young men and women, their parents and relatives will not interfere in. As for courtship, or bare, or obscure, vary by different people from place to place. Some sing the lyric songs mutually; some places girls are robbed of the hat, rings, scarves and other objects (if the girls do not want to be their lover, they can either directly or ask someone else to get them returned. Or if keeping in silence or saying out a date, they are willing to make friends too.) Once get promised by the girl, the boys can date in the girl’s department. With the frequent appointments, the feelings of both deepen, they may give presents to each other and show their parents that they want to get together, after their parents agreed, they will begin to send betrothal gift, and discuss the wedding schedule.

In some agricultural and pastoral areas, marriage for young men and women, it will general be followed as "parents’ will and match-maker’s introduction". When young men take a fancy to the woman, they invite a match-maker taking the wine hada and any other objects to the woman’s house. If the woman’s family agreed to the marriage, they will drink the wine and accept other presents, then the match-maker will come again to discuss more details about the wedding such as the dowry, dowry amount varies, but generally not too much to avoid the neighbors friends and relatives’ gossip; otherwise, the marriage fell through. Also it is prevalent in some areas that the men and women agreed in private, getting away from home, but it gradually reduced in recent years.

The day before the wedding, the groom will send the wedding escorts together with the match-maker bring wine, Hatta and other objects to the bride's home preparing the wedding. This night, the bride-to-be will be in the baptism and dress up. The next day, the bride-to-be will worship the family gods, ancestors and parents, bridesmaids will lead along the bride, the bride in tears, accompanied by bridesmaids and then with friends, matchmaker and marriage escorts so that such leave together. Before the arrival, the bridegroom’ family will wait and set a wedding toast not far from the house. 

When the bride came to the door, the groom will lay the new woolen carpet scattered with highland barley before the horse the bride ride, send hada or toast for the matchmaker, the wedding escorts.

Women will help the bride to get off the horse, wash the bride’s face with milk, and play charcoal vinegar to clean the body with the exception of good fortune. After enter the house, the monk will chant prayers, the bride and groom pray the heaven and the earth, the family god and parents. Then the bride and the groom will enter their bridal chamber. The guests will be seated in the banquet. Some will be sited in the sheep pen in the eastern agricultural area; people are sited on the ground drinking milk tea, eating oiled fruit. In some areas, the guests will be served the noodles for ridiculing the guests, as it is the custom, the guests do not mind it. After dinner, thanks to the matchmaker, the mother in law will be presented "jiu mao jiula" (hand-sewing cotton robe).

Finally the host and the guests drink, sing, and dance, laughing and talking happily through day and night. From the next day, the groom’s family will take the turn to feast the guests, presenting the gifts, which will last to three or four days.